Some people seem to be born with the ability to overcome
setbacks with relative ease. It’s a trait that experts call resilience. People
with resilience have a greater sense of control over their lives, says psychologist
Robert Brooks, PhD, that makes them more willing to take risks. “Also, because
of their optimistic outlook, they are more likely to develop and maintain
positive relationships with others,” as well as live more meaningful lives,
Brooks says. He co-wrote The Power of Resilience: Achieving Balance,
Confidence, and Personal Strength in Your Life.
1. Stay Flexible. Resilient
people expect to face challenges at different points in their lives therefore,
they are able to adjust their goals and find ways to adapt.
2. Learn Lessons. When
you have a negative experience, focus on the positive lessons you can learn
from it. When tough situations arise, don’t focus on who is to blame. Let go of
asking “Why me?” and feeling like a victim and ask yourself what you could do
differently next time to have a better result.
3. Take Action.
Think about what you can do to improve your situation, and then do it. Note
that resilient people work on solving a problems rather than letting themselves
get paralyzed by negativity. For example, if your boss cuts back your hours at
work, you could look at it as a chance to explore other job options. In the
long run, it could bring about career growth.
4. Stay Connected. Nurture
your relationships with friends and family. When you’re going through a hard
time, don’t withdraw from other people. Accept help from those who care about
you. Resilient people have at least one or two people in their lives they can
turn to for support.
5. Release Tension. Make
sure you have outlets to express your emotions and let go of tension; such
include;
- Writing in a journal/blog
- Drawing.
- Meditation.
- Talking with a friend or counselor.
6. Have a Sense of Purpose. Do
things that bring meaning to your life. This may include; spending time with your
family, volunteering and other work for a cause. For example people
who've had a serious illness often find that being in a marathon or walk to
raise money for a health-related charity makes them feel better.
7. Learn Healthy Habits. You’ll manage stressful times better if you:
- Exercise regularly.
- Eat a balanced diet.
- Take time to rest.
Research has shown that people who stay physically strong
tend to be more emotionally resilient.
8. Believe in Yourself. Take
pride in your abilities and what you've done. Recognize your personal
strengths.
9. Keep Laughing. Hold
on to your sense of humor even when times are tough. Laughter relieves stress
and helps you keep things in check.
10. Be Optimistic. A
positive, hopeful outlook will make you much more resilient. Remember that many
of the problems you’ll face in life are temporary, and that you have overcome
setbacks in the past.
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